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While in a distant city to present a SMART LOVE
SEMINAR, a mother called me at my motel. She wanted to know when I was
presenting "Close Encounters of A Dangerous Kind" My mind leaped to the
assumption that this was yet another parent trying to "protect" her daughter
from the facts. Not so. She wanted to make certain her daughter WAS
THERE! This mother told me that her 16 year old was having sex with a boy
despised by everyone for his arrogant, selfish and uncaring manner. The
mother went on: "I know my daughter is sexually active but I don't know
what to do about it. She is an honor student, active in sports and a member
of an award winning choir. She is not rebellious in any other way. And I
might as well telll you everything," Mom confided. "She has had an
abortion. And I didn't learn about it until long after the fact. She went
to an abortion clinic, had the abortion, and came home to rest. She was due
for an extensive practice session with her choir as they were preparing for
a big concert. I forced her to stand on her feet for hours the afternoon of
the abortion. If I'd only known . . . .I'm worried about my daughter. I
see no signs of remorse or guilt from having it. I don't want her to be
consumed by such feelings, but I do want her to feel sorry for what she's
done. Please see what you can do to help my daughter!"
I was speaking to grades 9 to 12 on SMART
DATING. One lively young man helped me earn my money. "If I told you Dick
and Jane had been 'intimate," I asked, "what would you assume about Dick and
Jane?" Our wise-cracking friend gleefully responded, "That she's a slut!"
Uproarious laughter followed. "SHE'S a slut?" I repeated giving special
emphasis to "she." "What does that make him?"
A hushed silence fell over the entire group
including our wise-cracking friend when the realization hit them that we
don't even have a word in the English language depicting a male slut!
Promiscuous males have no colorful label, but there are at least a half
dozen descriptive terms for females. Talk about a double standard!
Males must be impressed with the importance of
purity as strongly as we stress this message for our daughters.
The SMART LOVE SEMINAR definitely made an impact
on our students. I hear students say to each other, "Get your hands off
me! That's a "4" or a "5." The lesson on pair bonding teaches them clear
boundaries. We have continued using the SMART LOVE book and workbook in
class and students continue to be blessed. It was delightful to have you
here on our campus and we look forward to a repeat
performance. Principal, in Lansing, Michigan
Thank you for presenting the SMART LOVE SEMINAR
at our Youth Spiritual Retreat last weekend. You did an excellent job. The
material you shared was timely and to the point, a message our young people
needed to hear. It was a pleasure working with you again. Thanks for
having the courage to share such important truths with our young people. JL
Youth director
In a most humble way I want to thank you for
inspiring me through the SMART LOVE SEMINAR at a time when I most needed
it. I felt empty, lost and worthless. I had lost all respect for myself
and living seemed like a waste of time. But you and the seminar changed all
that. Now I am looking forward to tomorrow, for you have taught me so
much. I am released from my guilt and remorse over past sexual sins. I am
now convinced I can be a virgin again by the grace of God and regain respect
for myself. I am anticipating sharing what I have learned with other young
people. You have been more than wonderful!" A New Virgin through Christ
"I am 17 and was raised to believe that
sex belongs in marriage. But I started going with a fellow several years
older and felt pressured to prove I really loved him. We had sex for the
first time when I was 15. After that it didn't seem so bad and became
routine. The problem? I am 5 months pregnant now. When I told my
boyfriend this, he left me for another girl immediately. I don't even know
if I can graduate from high school, and my dreams of college and medical
school are definitely on hold if not dead. This is a desperate cry for
help. During my three years at this boarding school about 15 girls have
become pregnant. I've read your books, listened to your CDs and watched
your DVDs. Even though it's too late for me,you could help my friends.
Please come to our school and let these students know it is better to wait.
Help them realize that true intimacy is getting to know a person
emotionally, not just physically. Please come soon, as many of my friends
are about to make the biggest mistake of their lives. Messing around before
marriage isn't worth it! Signed, Wiser Now
I recently attended the SMART LOVE SEMINAR.
The information given was pertinent and presented in a very appealing way.,
In this day of increasing marital discord, divorce, teen pregnancies,
abortions, and STDs, it is imperative that youth of all ages know the facts,
but also know how to interact appropriately in response to the facts. I
would highly recommend this seminar for anyone who is serious about sharing
the most meaningful and happy life possible. RR, a medical doctor at
University of Central Florida
Thank you for the excellent SMART LOVE
SEMINAR you conducted for the youth at our camp meeting. Those who work
with youth know that this age group is tired of being preached at or simply
being entertained. What is needed is relevant material that meets their
basic felt needs. The seminar was a tremendous success because it addressed
those needs in a language the young people understood. You didn't beat
around the bush. She spoke straight to their hearts and they loved it. The
auditorium was packed every session. No problem with loitering out in the
hall. The young people were really positive. I consider it a privilege to
recommend this excellent seminar to my colleagues in ministry. The SMART
LOVE SEMINAR is an important contribution to any youth ministry program.
Derek Morris, Pastor
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